How to win friends and influence people e-book

I will definitely recommend this book to non fiction, self help lovers. Your Rating:. Your Comment:. Read Online Download. Add a review Your Rating: Your Comment:. The House of Cards Book Club. Resources and Downloads. Get a FREE ebook by joining our mailing list today!

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Regardless of my skepticism and cynicism, I found How to Win Friends and Influence People to be extremely applicable and relevant.

Everyone else? So friends, not so much. But how to influence people, yes. In that, I learn of him. The truth has to be made vivid, interesting, dramatic. You have to use showmanship. The movies do it. Television does it. And you will have to do it if you want attention. I like this book. Its advice and suggestions are totally useful and effective.

We tend to consider ourselves living in grim times, what with the wars, crumbling economy, job losses, and uncertain future, why not have a little possitivity and engaged enthusiasm for our fellow man? And Carnegie even foretold a danger in our current time. It puts a person in the limelight, raises one head and shoulders above the crowd. And the person who can speak acceptably is usually given credit for an ability out of all proportion to what he or she really possesses.

Aug 22, Daron rated it it was ok Shelves: non-fiction. Sometimes I felt this book was a bit too. There are some good ideas in it, but there are also some things which felt like they were extremely disingenuous. I don't like FAKE people.

There are some ideas in here which are quite fake. View all 6 comments. This book was published in which makes it quite a old book to read, the author has made a good attempt in explaining how you can actually win friends and influence people with the help of Stories, examples and quotes.

Altough I had too much of high expectations from this book however the points discussed in the book did convince to a great extent what are the important factors to influence the opposite person, I personally facing a lot of issues in relation 4. Altough I had too much of high expectations from this book however the points discussed in the book did convince to a great extent what are the important factors to influence the opposite person, I personally facing a lot of issues in relationships due to the bluntness in my speech was able to find answers to a certain extent.

Well it's a self help book at the end of the day, this book shall suit your cause unless and until you honestly accept your shortcomings and practice what has been preached in this book on your surroundings.

Shelves: not-for-me , dull. As most of you know this is not the type of book I normally reach for, so it should be no surprise that my dad recommended it. He's a huge fan, so for whatever reason I decided to give it a shot. This is by no means a bad book, but since we're on the topic, I'll mention the cons first.

I skimmed through the latter half of this book today. The first half took me over a month. This isn't boring per se, I just happen to have the attention span of your average Millennial. I have the worst patience As most of you know this is not the type of book I normally reach for, so it should be no surprise that my dad recommended it.

I have the worst patience as in non-existent to boot. If I'm not constantly entertained by something and it takes longer than ten seconds, I get irritable. This book was full of real life examples. Whenever you thought it would finish, another would come. A lot of the principles are obvious, but let's be honest. Am I going to apply any of them to my life? The thing is, I don't want to win friends and influence people.

I want to avoid people and take long solitary walks. I don't want to influence anyone because I am a bad influence. My tactic for gaining friends is very simple. Stage 1: Hiss and moan when anyone shows interest in you, but silently be flattered.

Never show interest in anyone. That's antisocial suicide. Stage 2: Go into asshole mode - make snide remarks, but be nice enough so the person will let you keep making snide remarks. Stage 3: Have no tact or diplomacy because that means you're lying and possibly weak. Stage 4: Finally decide you may like them and go into nice-but-hyper-and-distracted mode. NB, this does not occur during shark week. Stage 5: Fluctuate constantly and be a burden forever. Cut ties with anyone who slightly irritates you because you believe in minimalism in all things.

This method works wonders and leaves me nearly friendless. How I influence people is slightly more corrupt so I won't go into that. In the end there's not many wonderful things I can say about this book. Still, I don't feel like it's bad. It's just not for me personally. Great book! I think this book really holds up even today, being originally written in , that's almost a century old and still very much relevant.

It's a fundamental book on human behaviour, how we function and its really helpful. Twice I did good, but that I heard never. However, that depends on how you interpret th Great book!

However, that depends on how you interpret this book. It's not meant for trickery, rather it promotes kindness and good social skills. How you use it depends entirely on you the reader. Apr 14, booklady rated it it was amazing Shelves: philosophy , books-on-books , humor , self-help , s , classic , psychology , worth-reading-over-and-over , biography , Re-read or rather re-listened to this, as I promised myself I was going to do when I got it last year.

I really think the title is misleading. This time I actually got to put some of the principles of this book into practice when tutoring an unwilling 7th grader. Receiving D's and F's and reading at 3rd grade level, "M" is not unintelligent. She is just one of the many child ren pushed t Re-read or rather re-listened to this, as I promised myself I was going to do when I got it last year.

She is just one of the many child ren pushed through the system ready or not. Anyway, when M failed to respond to my charming personality, I realized that I needed to find what interested and motivated her. Ever since, we have been gradually building a relationship based on who she is, what she wants, and how I can help her.

Admittedly I started at a very low level candy for good performance! Anyway, she at least talks to me now and doesn't hide behind her long hair anymore. Thank you Mr. As I could hardly remember any specifics from that distant time—only the overall favorable impression—I learned a great deal from this reread. The author and my friend both recommend returning to the principles of this book at least once year.

Based on my own desire to have happy and positive human relations I agree this is a worthwhile book. We all need to get along and this book is chock full of helpful ideas for improving all of our relations with others.

Highly recommended! Save the gospel itself, and my mission president, this book has been the single most influential thing in my life. Timeless, Absolutely. But for someone who had no social skills to speak of until his mission? That will. It will make him want to admit that he, too, may be wrong. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. They always return home. It not only clears the air of guilt and defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the error.

Dec 10, Marks54 rated it it was ok. This book presents one of the classic statements of popular psychology oriented around positive self-image, self reliance, and cooperative relationships with others. It is one of the most popular and influential books of its type ever and provided the foundations for contemporary self-help celebrities, such as Oprah Winfrey, as well as much of current motivational and organizational psychology that one finds in current business school curricula.

What to make of it? I tend to side with the critics This book presents one of the classic statements of popular psychology oriented around positive self-image, self reliance, and cooperative relationships with others. I tend to side with the critics, who are numerous.

It is difficult to argue with the basic points of the book, taken at a surface level. Most people enjoy being respected, agreed with, and successful. Confidence and self-reliance are no doubt important personal characteristics in personal success. Many people do not enjoy conflict or being disagreed with and would prefer instead cooperative relations with others. OK, but so what? The problem comes once it is realized that Carnegie is highlighting an ambivalence that is inherent in many of our social relationships.

On the one hand, we can interact with people on their own terms and without expectations of obligations, duties, or norms of reciprocity. We can deal with and respect people as they are. On the other hand, however, much of what we do in social life involves either trying to accomplish something through other people or having other people trying to use us to accomplish something of importance to them.

In trying to balance these two aspects of social relations, most of us become aware of the need to balance. We do not usually treat commercial relationships as close friends. We do not draw up elaborate performance-based contracts with loved ones such as family members.

The problem is that people who expect to be treated as independent persons do not appreciate being used by others for some personal end. It is conceptually difficult to see how someone can be both taken authentically and respected as a person while at the same time being viewed as an agent for someone else. Family members and loved ones do not like to be used.

Commercial partners do not appreciate being treated as friends when more immediate personal goals were the basis for interactions. Many adults learn to balance these differing perspectives towards others.

Sometimes we treat others at arms length while at other times friendships can develop. Carnegie's classic work calls on the reader to both treat people on their own terms and also to attempt to influence them to get their cooperation in attaining one's objectives.

Without more specification of how and where to balance, however, the book becomes a more cynical effort to redefine the problem of positive social relations in the form of a solution -- in order to influence people and get your way, treat them authentically.

The rub, of course, is how to go about doing this. It is akin to arguing that the solution to poverty is easy -- just get some money! The faux sincerity and false positivity in the service of influencing others come across as phony and manipulative after a while. This recalls another old maxim - if something seems to good to be true, it probably is too good to be true. The oversimplified examples and testimonials also get old in a hurry.

The reduction of large business enterprises and their managers to a series of positive work interactions with employees is simplistic at well.

The details matter, individual skills matter, industry structures matter, history matters. It is nice to imagine that a positive attitude can conquer all and bring one riches. That lets a lot of other factors off the hook for explaining success or failure. But wishing it is so does not make it so. The more I read it, the more it sounds like a text on manipulation and less like an industrial manual. Dec 13, Eleven rated it it was ok. This was about two things that don't interest me.

At the time, I picked it up for the business perspective but I don't think I ever finished it. I favor an alternative philosophy of being genuine.

You will likely yield fewer friends of higher quality and perhaps be less successful but I think it will ultimately result in a higher quality of life.

Other than that, this book does have practical advice on business etiquette. And I finally did. And it came nothing short of living up to the world class reputation it has. Carnegie explains the concepts behind influencing people, not as a bag of tricks, but as a true way of life. All the chapters contain highly self-explanatory examples to help readers understand each principle.

In my opinion, this is one of the books one must read in his or her lifet I've heard, I wash told, I have read how amazing 'The Book' of Dale Carnegie for years and always wanted to read it.

In my opinion, this is one of the books one must read in his or her lifetime, preferably at the earliest. Jul 21, Keertana rated it liked it Shelves: why-the-hype. Every week for the past seven years my father has diligently asked me--without fail--whether or not I had finally read this book. I have three copies of this book in my house--the first an aqua paperback my father originally bought for me, the second the very same paperback my father re-bought for me when in a fit of rebellion I told him I'd Every week for the past seven years my father has diligently asked me--without fail--whether or not I had finally read this book.

I have three copies of this book in my house--the first an aqua paperback my father originally bought for me, the second the very same paperback my father re-bought for me when in a fit of rebellion I told him I'd lost the first copy, and the third my father's own disheveled edition he brought back from India. If your parents have ever shoved anything down your throat, you can probably understand why it took me seven years to finally pick up this volume.

Even now, I've only read it under the threat that my father wouldn't pay my college tuition bills for the fall semester unless I would read and discuss it with him before the payment deadline. Lo and behold, Dale Carnegie's non-fiction piece finally made it into my hands.

Admittedly, this isn't a bad book. It shares useful pieces of advice with plenty of support to back up its claims. Only, in my eyes, I don't believe that each and every individual can truly put Carnegie's advice into effect. Certain tid-bits, such as listening to others or offering genuine praise, can definitely be employed by all but others, such as manipulating a situation so that the other person believes your idea is really his or her own, are much harder. We've all met charismatic and charming people who can take advantage of any situation seamlessly.

It isn't a learned skill, but rather an innate one. Thrown into another one, I fear I'd sink and find myself influenced instead.

Winning friends isn't overly difficult, in my opinion. Much of what Carnegie writes are valuable stepping stones I've picked up over the course of my two years blogging online.

I offer genuine praise when I enjoy a blog post, I take the time to read--or "listen"--to what others have to say, I use their name when commenting because it builds that personal connection. Consequently, I don't find this book to be particularly helpful. When it comes to winning friends, I think we all undergo certain trajectories in life where we make genuine friends and others where we don't, but we learn from those experiences to know the advice Carnegie puts into chapters.

I also dislike the phrase "winning" friends So, the first part of this book was useless, the second part--"influence people"--isn't as helpful as it should be and the last part, leadership attributes, are yet again qualities I don't think can be completely taught. Carnegie speaks of traits a good leader possesses, but oftentimes the difficulty doesn't lie in being a good leader but rather in becoming a leader in the first place.

Perhaps I am overly critical of this book considering my past experiences with it, but I will not deny that, in the right hands, this book is certainly moving.

In today's day and age, with the internet altering our perception of face-to-face interactions, this volume may be even more significant to individuals who cannot cease texting and are hooked onto technology. For others, though, this book is merely repetitive seriously, so many of the same pieces of advice are repeated in different phrases throughout the novel and rather dull. Jun 30, Maciej Nowicki rated it it was amazing. By implementing them you might succeed in your daily life and career.

So, if you want to influence people and be a leader this book is essential. Next, if you are the more experienced person you might treat the book as a kind of review of your communication skills, however, if you perceive yourself as a poor communicator and a weak influencer this book might turn your world upside down. The book is divided into 4 parts which are: 1.

Fundamental techniques in handling people 2. How to win people to your way of thinking 4. How to change people without giving offensive or arousing resentment Nevertheless, I think that there are 9 takeaways worth mentioning in this review and these are: 1. By doing that you have a higher chance to get their attention and acceptance. Give honest and sincere appreciation which is something opposite to using flattery.

Being nice and kind is really great. Separate these to points clearly by talking about something else.

If you are wrong admit it emphatically and without hesitation. If you did it right you would be surprised how the other person, all of a sudden, becomes on your side. He would even make some excuses for you. Avoid arguments. Talk about your own mistakes before criticising the other person. If you know that the idea of somebody else is wrong, tell it honestly and support your statement with your own experience.